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THE MYTH OF GRACEFUL HEALING: WHY REAL RECOVERY IS MESSY
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin There’s a version of healing the internet likes to sell you. It’s tidy. Quiet. Aesthetic. It comes with...
Josi
5 days ago2 min read
WHEN BEING LOVED MEANS BEING WHO YOU’RE NOT
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin There’s a reason it feels safer to be chosen for your mask than seen for your truth. Because somewhere...
Josi
7 days ago2 min read
YOU WERE APPLAUDED FOR THE MASK — NOT THE REAL YOU
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin They clapped when you smiled through it. When you held your heartbreak like it was a bouquet. When you...
Josi
Oct 93 min read
THE ADDICTION TO ALMOST: HOW UNAVAILABLE LOVE BECOMES A SURVIVAL STRATEGY
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin There’s a particular kind of hunger that never shows up in obvious ways.It doesn’t scream. It waits....
Josi
Oct 73 min read
WHY WE STAY: THE PSYCHOLOGY BEHIND CALLING PAIN LOVE
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin You knew it didn’t feel right. The tight stomach. The constant guessing. The way your nervous system...
Josi
Oct 23 min read
WHEN SURVIVAL BECOMES SEDUCTION: OWNING WHAT WAS STOLEN
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin You didn’t ask to become this woman. The one who studies body language like scripture. The one who knows...
Josi
Sep 302 min read
WHEN RAGE BECOMES EROTIC: PLEASURE AS PROTEST
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin They told you pleasure was soft. That it should be quiet, relaxed, pretty. That it belonged to the healed,...
Josi
Sep 253 min read
WHEN DESIRE RETURNS AND YOU PANIC: THE TERROR OF FEELING AGAIN
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin You prayed for this. To want again.To feel something. To ache a little. To have your body flutter, even...
Josi
Sep 233 min read
SEXUAL NUMBNESS ISN’T DYSFUNCTION — IT’S DEFENSE
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin You think you’re broken. You’ve googled low libido. You’ve blamed your hormones, your stress, your...
Josi
Sep 182 min read
THE PERFORMANCE DIDN’T PROTECT YOU: WHEN BEING CHOSEN STILL HURTS
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin You did everything right. You were soft, sexy, agreeable. You laughed at the right jokes, gave the right...
Josi
Sep 162 min read
THE GOOD GIRL TRAP: HOW YOU WERE TAUGHT TO BE CHOSEN, NOT SAFE
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin You smiled when you were uncomfortable. You said yes when you wanted to say no. You laughed at things that...
Josi
Sep 112 min read
WHEN SEX FEELS SAFE BUT YOU FEEL NOTHING: NUMBNESS, TRAUMA, AND THE ABSENCE OF DESIRE
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin You’re not in danger anymore. They ask. They wait. They’re soft.They listen when you say no. They don’t...
Josi
Sep 92 min read
WAS IT KINK OR CONTROL? UNDERSTANDING COVERT ABUSE
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin He said you liked it rough.He said you never said no. He said it turned you on. And maybe it did. But...
Josi
Sep 42 min read
WHY SURVIVORS OFTEN FEEL MORE IN CONTROL IN TOXIC DYNAMICS
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin You know it’s unhealthy. You know it’s unbalanced, manipulative, maybe even cruel. But still — there’s a...
Josi
Sep 22 min read
WHY INTIMACY FEELS LIKE DANGER WHEN YOU HAVE TRAUMA
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin You say you want closeness. You crave it. Dream about it. Bleed for it. But when it finally arrives — when...
Josi
Aug 262 min read
WHEN SEX BECOMES SURVIVAL: HOW TRAUMA TWISTS YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO PLEASURE
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin Some of us shut down.Some of us go wild. Some of us disappear completely while moaning like porn stars....
Josi
Aug 212 min read
THE EROTIC COST OF SILENCE: HOW SHAME DISTORTS DESIRE
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin You think you’ve lost your sex drive. You think you’re “just not in the mood lately.” You say things like...
Josi
Aug 192 min read
YOU CALL IT ANXIETY — BUT IT’S YOUR BODY BEGGING YOU TO STOP PRETENDING YOU’RE OKAY
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin Let’s stop calling it burnout. Let’s stop calling it low self-esteem. Let’s stop calling it social...
Josi
Aug 142 min read
TRAUMA AND THE NERVOUS SYSTEM
LIVING IN A BODY THAT REMEMBERS A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin You can forget the details. You can delete the photos, burn the letters,...
Josi
Aug 122 min read
THE CONSENT YOU OWE YOURSELF: HOW MANY SURVIVORS DISSOCIATE EVEN IN SELF-TOUCH
A GinkgoMinds Blog by Jo Oswin How many survivors learned to dissociate during sex—even with themselves? We don’t talk about that part.We...
Josi
Aug 72 min read
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